I am growing weary of the TV legal beavers displaying outrage over the plea deal attained by Debbie LaFave in Florida.   They claim this will color cases in which adult males sexually assault minor girls.   They claim Deb LaFave raped this boy in the back of that car while his cousin drove around town.   They say there is no difference between this and a 25 year old male teacher doing this with a female student.   I do think the woman is nuts for wanting to have sex with a teenage boy.   I think she should have done some time, possibly some serious time.   I don't think our society is wrong to treat this harshly.   But can we please get off this PC-induced notion that somehow she raped him?

Let's see the facts as they actually are.   This whole episode came about because the teenager's cousin told his mother about it.   When confronted, the teenager admitted what had been going on.   But keep in mind that the teenager bragged to his cousin that he was having sex with a "totally hot teacher."   The cousin didn't believe him.   So he proved it.   There doesn't seem to be even a slight element of coercion here.   I was a teenage boy once too.   I routinely fantasized about several of my young "totally hot" teachers from middle school on.   I found them completely arousing.   If you're a man, answer me honestly, did you have any sort of similar experience?   So, to recap, here we have a willing participant living out his fantasy, bragging about it, and then proving it was true to his cousin.   It is an unholy relationship but it does not smack of anything even remotely close to an adult teacher coercing a 15 year old girl into sex.

Now, let's get to a little deeper level for a second.   Obviously the way a male's anatomy works raises additional questions.   It is certainly possible for a man to rape a woman.   It is also possible for a man to rape a man.   I imagine it is also possible for a woman to rape a woman.   But I do not see, even for a second how it is possible for a woman to rape a man.   She can try and the result may very well be criminal sexual contact but in the end, the best she is going to be able to do is humiliate him and that's not what happened here.

I don't for a moment condone what Deb LaFave did to this kid, even if it constitutes one of my own darker fantasies when I was the same age.   We must not tolerate this sort of behavior.   We must punish men or women who conduct themselves thusly.   Deb LaFave should have done some time.   But don't try to force feed me that boys and girls are substantially similar.   They're not.   They are functionally opposite when it comes to sex.   It is physiologically impossible for a woman to force a boy to have sex.   Go ahead and complain about the fact that here a perpetrator got off without doing any time but don't lie to us.